Have you been wondering how to make sure your online dating profile gets the kind of results you want? Have you wondered if there’s a way to improve the quality and number of people who contact you? There is. It’s your photos. They’re the first thing people notice and they’re why someone decides to take the time to learn more about you.
The truth is, someone is going to look in depth at your profile because they find your photo appealing. So how do you know if your photos are bad or good? You can tell by the type and number of connection requests you receive. If you’re finding yourself really disappointed with those things, it’s likely that your photos need improvement.
WHAT IS A BAD ONLINE DATING PHOTO? What immediately turns people away or makes them instantly skip past your profile? There are several types of photos that give bad first impressions:
A blurry, grainy photo. People want to see what you look like. If they get eyestrain trying to make out your features, they’ll skip right past you.
A photo where someone else has obviously been cropped out. It gives the impression that you may not actually be single.
A photo of you wearing a brimmed hat and/or sunglasses. Again, people want to know what you really look like, especially your eyes.
A photo with a drink or cigarette in your hand or obviously under the influence of alcohol or drugs. This one is self-explanatory.
A web-cam photo or mirror selfie. It’s important to show you care enough about yourself and others, to make the effort to use decent picture. Web-cam and mirror selfies do not give that impression.
A super-closeup, head-only photo. This one is off-putting much like someone standing way, way too close to you. Too intense and a bit odd.
A group-photo or a photo of you with pets. You want the focus to be on you, not on your friends, not on your dog, cat, horse, turtle, etc. (No matter how adorable your friends or pets may be.)
An obviously retouched photo. These give the impression of insecurity, vanity and attempted deception.
A photo in gym clothes or ratty, stained, faded or dirty clothes. Basic rule… If you wouldn’t wear it to work or on a date, don’t wear it in your online profile photos.
A photo that’s clearly several years younger than the age listed in your profile. People feel instantly that their intelligence is being insulted. And it also gives the impression of insecurity and deception.
WHAT KINDS OF ONLINE DATING PHOTOS GET THE RESULTS YOU WANT? This is a much shorter list that can be summed up in two words… Good ones. According to dozens of articles written about this exact thing (a few of which I will link to at the bottom of this post), your absolute best bet is to use high quality photos where you look comfortable, happy and natural.
A smiling photo. A picture of you with a smile that’s clearly genuine, is the most attractive photo you can use. It doesn’t have to be a big, toothy grin, what matters is that your smile shows in your eyes. It’s simple human nature, that real smiles automatically create a positive response.
A flattering hips/waist up photo. People want to see your body shape and type. Use a picture where your body language is relaxed and confident.
A candid, personality photo. Something that shows you being yourself and/or displays something you’re interested in.
An outdoor photo. Natural light is the most flattering, and outdoor backgrounds are generally more interesting and visually appealing.
TO MEET A GREAT PERSON, USE GREAT PHOTOS. Online dating experts and match-makers will all tell you… If you want attractive, intelligent, confident people to be impressed and intrigued by your online profile, the best choice of all, is to hire a professional photographer who specializes in online dating photos.
When you immediately start getting much better results and a lot more of them, you’ll realize the investment is more than worth it.
Do some research by finding photographers in your area and looking at their online portfolios. When you find yourself thinking how appealing and nice people look in their pictures, then that’s the photographer you should choose.
If you need an online dating photographer in Vancouver, BC, you can see my portfolio here: http://www.tameaburdphotography.com/portraits
To read some of those articles I mentioned, check out these links: